At Swank Soiree while getting you down the aisle with ease is the main goal we also love to see a healthy, happy ever-after! So it’s only natural that when we stumbled upon an article in Brides Magazine August 2010 issue entitled “Want a healthy marriage?” we had to blog about it. SO put on your fighting gloves and read on!
Have a fight, go on get mad!
Contrary to what most people (especially single people) think a certain amount of conflict is necessary to help couples weed out problems that can harm a marriage in the long run, says John Gottman, Executive Director of Seattle’s Relationship Research Institute. SO go on fight but let’s try to use these tips to fight fair.
1. Speak in a low, quiet voice.
2. Look your partner in the eyes: Keep arms and legs uncrossed.
3. If needed, take a time-out to collect your thoughts and calm down.
4. Use phrases that clarify the situation, “it sounds like your saying”.
5. Start sentences with nonthreatening words and phrases, such as “maybe…,” “what if….,” or “ I wonder…”.
6. Speak affirmatively.
7. Ask open ended questions: “what are your thoughts?”
Fight Club: Top reasons, in order, for arguing with a spouse:
Women –
Children
Housework
Money
Men –
Sex
Money
Leisure
To read more on secrets to a great marriage follow the link below.
http://www.brides.com/wedding-dresses-style/2009/09/secrets-to-a-great-marriage
